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Definition of marriage, for 2-year-olds

This is a sappy little story, but relevant.

Our 2-1/2-year-old daughter was trying to figure out the different relationships in our family today. It started, I think, when she wanted to know why I didn't want to address my wife as "Mommy." So I explained, and she said, "Okay, she's my Holly and she's my mommy. And she's your Holly and she's your wife."

"Right."

"And you're my daddy and my Mark."

"Right."

"And you're mommy's Mark and mommy's wife."

"Uh, no, I'm her husband."

And then I decided, on this of all days, let's not start her off with George W. Bush's definition of marriage. "Forget that. I'm her partner. She's my partner, and I'm her partner."

"But she's my partner, too," my daughter replied. "You're my partner and she's my partner. And I'm your partner and her partner. We're all partners."

Who's going to argue with that? I'll have to find another angle.

Posted by Mark Schmitt on February 24, 2004 | Permalink

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Comments

All it is going to take is a principled statement
from someone like Rudolph Giuliani to the effect that Bush is peddling hogwash here. And the Republicans are still planning to come to NYC this summer?

Posted by: BobNJ | Feb 25, 2004 7:49:40 AM

Quick answer: Holly's your spouse.

Posted by: | Feb 25, 2004 10:20:54 AM

Quick answer: Holly's your spouse.

Posted by: | Feb 25, 2004 10:22:22 AM

I want to second (third?) the previous comment(s) on behalf of spouse. It sounds a little odd, but only because it is not in common use. It is specific, unlike partner, it is egalitarian, and it has all sorts of nice assocations, like "espouse" (I can't swear for the connection, as I'm not near my OED, but I would bet on it).

Posted by: Jeff L. | Feb 25, 2004 1:15:06 PM

Try King, Queen, and Princess. Everybody gets a grand title and the proper lines of authority are established.

Posted by: Max B. Sawicky | Feb 25, 2004 1:38:25 PM

Perhaps in some glorious not-too-distant future world, you'll be able to refer her to the ultimate guide on the nomenclature of familial relationships: The Constitution.

AB

Posted by: Angry Bear | Feb 25, 2004 3:02:29 PM

Perhaps someone can answer a question that continues to puzzle me. John Kerry, John Edwards and many other Democrats go to great lengths to say that they oppose gay marriage but support civil unions. The implication of that posistion is that there are clear legal distinctions between marriage and civil unions. If so, could someone who supports this position please explain what protections, responsibilities, rights or protections you want to deny to same-sex civil union couples but preserve for opposite-sex married couples. Is this mainstream Democratic position merely some kind of semantic distinction?

Posted by: Steve H. | Feb 25, 2004 5:27:42 PM

Try having that conversation with your two-year-old when you're going through a divorce (or better yet, don't and just take my word for it). It's at least twice as confusing.

Posted by: apostropher | Feb 25, 2004 6:07:32 PM

I'm not sure I get it. Adults can be lifetime partners. The ones who are male are called husbands. The ones who are female are called wives. No reason those terms should carry any cultural baggage for a two-year-old, any more than boys are called he and girls are called she. And leaves perfectly open partnerships with two husbands or two wives. On a personal note, you may not have encountered the "I'm going to marry so-and-so when I grow up" line. My girls (twins) started this when they started preschool. But at some point one of them said she wanted to marry Laura, and the other said no, you can't do that, she's a girl. So in my soft-headed liberal (and not quite factual) way, I said anyone can marry anyone if both of them agree- boys and girls, boys and boys, girls and girls (heck, surely it will be true by the time they're marrying anyone). But I guess they took the message to heart, because the preschool teacher told us one daughter delivered the same lecture in the girls washroom when another girl objected to someone's plan to marry a female classmate when they grew up. Good luck with the two-year-old, and keep her away from Disney princess movies- now that the girls are five, we never hear about marrying girlfriends anymore. Those insidious corrupting cultural influences.

Posted by: Ben P | Feb 25, 2004 9:40:00 PM

Steve H: The distinction is that "civil unions" are not called "marriage". The fact that gay marriage is called marriage is the sticking point for a lot of people, not any of the legal rights. Does that really makes sense? No, but it's a common sentiment.

Posted by: Walt Pohl | Feb 28, 2004 6:34:14 PM

I came a-lookin for the Ziobrowski information and am charmed by what your daughter asked, and by your answers. But her final response gives me hope! Good dad! Excellent kid!

Posted by: s'Valentine | Mar 7, 2004 6:11:18 PM

The reason why gay marriage is needed, not civil unions, is strictly because of the implications of the word. If we're going to allow gays to form stable, longterm, and civilly recognized relationships we will need to use *all* of the baggage and inertia of concept that comes along with the idea of marriage to secure them. The folks that say that gay marriage threatens heterosexual marriage are only right insofar as civil unions are concerned- the bright line is dimmed- and the only way to protect marriage in this structure is to let gays have it. I always figured we wouldn't have this fight- a generation would pass and such things wouldn't seem so odd after all (after all, it only takes a generation for a radical to become conservative without changing his mind on anything...) But if we're going to have this fight, hold the line at allowing full gay marriage and accept no less.

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